Note: This is a transcript of the interview on stress management arising from online learning stressors besetting young adults, featuring Lance Carr, a star of Pinoy Big Brother’s Otso, and now taking Mass Communications in Ateneo de Davao University. The video is on my Youtube channel with the same title as above. You can access the video here.
Intro spiel: He was in Pinoy Big Brother’s Otso, a Modelong Ateneo, and a Blue Knight, a member of the Ateneo de Davao Senior High School’s basketball varsity. Juggling between the demands of online learning and showbusiness, he will share with us 11 ways to manage stress from online learning. We are honored to have as our guest, Lance Justin Carr. It’s worth your time.
Jboy: So let’s begin.
How was your journey from Senior HS, and then to PBB Otso, and now back to Davao for your college course? So how was it so far? Kuwentuhan mo naman kami kung anong nangyari after senior high school.
Lance: Napakalungkot nga Fr. JBoy coz I was not able to experience my graduation di ba? Wala po ako noon. Sayang nga po. Pero enjoy naman ang experience ko sa PBB. Yung na-learn ko sa senior high, especially the 6Cs, na-apply ko naman po sa loob ng bahay [ni kuya].
After that, I tried the showbiz world for one year. After that, I decided to study in Ateneo for college. I had two options po Father: to study online in a different school or to study in Ateneo. Well since the pandemic, I decided to go back to my roots, my alma mater, to Ateneo kasi I really trust the system of the Ateneo. Talagang gawin nila ang lahat para maging effective yung online learning.
Jboy: Our lives really circle around the students. What can help them? What are their struggles? And we’re really happy to have you with us. You talked about your memories in senior high school. Gusto ko tanungin kung ano yung mga memories mo nung senior high school which you cherish.
- Be grateful.
Lance: My life in senior high revolved around studies, basketball, and pageants, di ba? I joined Modelo Ateneo. Sa PBB I’m very lucky kasi timing yung mga weekly tasks namin because it involved basketball and pageants, so ayun yung mga learnings ko dati sa senior high school, like what I said earlier, na-apply ko sa PBB.
Pero ang nakakamiss po talaga sa senior high is the fun. Yung fun talaga ng senior high ibang-iba from junior high o elementary. I mean, the fiesta, the intramurals, the subject, the teachers, kayo, yung mga masses niyo po. Yun talaga yung namiss ko Fr. Jboy, the fun talaga in senior high.
JBoy: When you were in senior high school, we were together in basketball varsity, naaalala mo iyan with your games, what are the things that you remember about being in varsity, like the discipline that is part of being a basketball player, how did it help you become who you are now?
2. Be productive.
Lance: The number one thing that I learned being a basketball player is being competitive, but not towards other teams, other players, but competitive within yourself. You test yung limits mo, kung hanggang saan kaya ng physical attributes mo o ng mental toughness mo. Talagang, pinu-push ka sa limit mo talaga.
Next is the discipline. Well, being a student athlete, kailangang may i-maintain kami na grades para makalaro. Fr jboy, may usapan dati is may failing grade o mababang grade hindi makalaro, so it’s actually the discipline of time management po talaga fr jboy, kung ano talaga yung priorities mo.
Jboy: Kapag pumasok ka na sa showbiz, di ba tuturuan ka nilang sumayaw, how did discipline, time management, all of those things you learned help you out?
3. Learn new skills.
Lance: Ang alam ko talaga Fr jboy, time management comes with patience, I also believe in that. Patience and willingness to learn new things, since ako, ang alam ko lang talaga before entering showbiz is basketball, that’s it. Maybe some, a little background from acting kasi Teatro Ateneo din ako nung junior high.
But in showbiz, you need to be flexible sa lahat, lalo na with singing and dancing. Nandoon po lumalabas yung patience and willingness to learn. I’ve been attending various dance and acting workshops, para ma-improve yung skills ko in performing.
JBoy: Anong pinaka-challenge mo, sumayaw o sa acting? What was your greatest challenge?
Lance: The greatest challenge talaga father, yung iiyak ka, grabe iyon. Sobrang hirap umiyak. Sobrang hirap talaga umiyak as in like yung parang nafru-frustrate na talaga ako pag di ako nakaka-iyak, yun yung mga eksena.
Jboy: Anong iniisip mo kapag umiyak ka? Kailangang meron kang paghuhugutan, di ba?
Lance: There is this thing called, karga in acting. We believe that acting is personal. We apply our personal experiences to the scene para mas lumabas ang emotions, ang natural namin when we’re performing a certain scene.
Jboy: Our experiences in life, they actually come together, in a great performance. Even for musicians. What we do is when we play something, we have to put all of our emotions. There was a time when Ryan Cayabyab once said “that singer kailangan niyang masaktan para maintindihan niya yung kanta.” So hindi pwedeng hiwalay ka.
Lance: Yung iaacting mo lang for the sake of acting.
Jboy: Tama. Kasi malalaman din nila kung plastic na plastic, kapag pilit na pilit. Lalo na when you act, at ‘yung mukha mo halos pareho lang. May mga actors na parang ganoon, ibig sabihin, hindi talaga nangagaling sa kanilang sarili.
So you decided get in to college. You decided mass communication. Was there a dilemma in choosing your career?
4. Keep goals in mind.
Lance: Since I am in the showbiz world, I took up mass communications kasi parang workshop na rin siya sa akin, Father. Kasi nandito na rin lang ako. Actually ito na talaga ang work ko, showbiz, so might as well pipili na lang ako ng course kung saan ako kumportable; kung saan ako may background na rin, para di ako mahirapan. Kasi Fr. jboy maalala mo, I was a STEM Pre-engineering student.
But I think yung influence ng showbiz sa akin ang tumulong na makapagdecide ako na magmass comm. I think na mas ok siya ma-balance ko; I think I will have a harder time in balancing engineering and showbiz po.
Jboy: Now that you’re into your studies, what are the challenges that you undergo especially with your studies online?
5. Overcome challenges.
Lance: Usually father I look at the smaller details. The internet connections. Hindi lahat may strong internet connection. There are some interference and may mga lag ng konti, sa teachers, sa students din.
JBoy: Are there any stressors that you experience while studying online. It’s not just the studies but the whole environment, being only at home, you cannot go out, etc. etc.
Lance: Actually I took this learning test. I discovered that I am a kinesthetic learner, (Jboy: pwede ba tayo mag-apir online. Pareho tayong kinesthetic learner) so sanay tayo sa mga physical activites, magalaw tayong tao, so being online, syempre nakatutok ka lang sa monitor mo, sa keyboard, sa laptop, nahihirapan po talaga ako mag-adjust kasi. Unlike the face-to-face there are a lot of physical activities you can do, for example in certain subjects, may mga role play, or sa math, may problem solving. Sobrang nahirapan po talaga ako mag-adjust being a kinesthetic learner to online classes po talaga. It’s not talaga my forte na nakaharap lang talaga sa monitor, and listening to the teacher. Iba talaga yung face to face di ba po?
Jboy: When we study part of it is the social element. Alam mo yung nag-aaral ka, you learn something because you are interacting with your classmates. Tama ka, kapag kinesthetic learner ka, kailangan mong gumalaw nang gumalaw. Parang hindi umaandar ang utak kapag hindi ka gumagalaw.
Lance: Doon nga pumapasok yung loneliness factor, fr. jboy. The vibe, the aura of the class, yung ingay na mimiss ko na nga, the productive noise as I would say in senior high. As in, iba talaga.
Jboy: Oo nga. May klase na sumisigaw; may klase na nagpapalakpakan; may klase na nagkakantiyawan, you all hear that while in your own class. Somehow it gives you some gasoline.
Since you’re very, very young and online, what are the things that you do to manage your stress?
6. Ask for help.
Lance: You ask for help. Hindi ako naniniwala, Father na may hindi nahihirapan sa online class. All of us are really struggling because we’re adjusting to the new system, new way of learning, so I think we should ask for help sa teacher natin. Huwag po tayong mahiya sa kapwa classmates natin, and most of all, sa parents talaga natin. Sila po talaga ang close sa atin di ba?
7. Have fun.
Don’t forget to have fun. We may see online classes as a struggle, but we need to see (parang Catriona Gray lang) the silver lining of it— the beauty of online learning. At least, di ba, hindi masayang yung one year natin, kasi one year can change you a lot. So I am very thankful to Ateneo that they pushed through with online learning. Just don’t forget to have fun, kasi it’s something new.
JBoy: But your Instagram tells me a lot about you having fun. O dalawa di ba? Nagbabasketball ka, nagti-tiktok ka. O ikuwento mo kung papaano you’re having fun.
Lance: I think it’s a stress-reliever. I forgot the term for it.
Jboy: Coping mechanism.
Lance: Yea, it’s a coping mechanism. Like ako, dinadaan ko na lang sa tiktok on my spare time.
Jboy: Pero ang galing nga ng sayaw mo sa totoo lang?
Lance: Makikita naman nila.
Jboy: Puro basketball lang itong batang ito, tapos biglang nakita ko na yung tiktok mo. But I am really happy that you have discovered another aspect of your life, alam mo iyon. Don’t look down on people who are doing tiktoks, as long as, you know, of course, their decent. Those tiktoks are short videos that is manageable if you’re learning a certain hobby, learning a new talent. Those tiktoks are helpful.
Lance: Very helpful because it is a way of expressing ourselves, especially if you’re interested in singing, in dancing. Kasi tiktoks can be used in all kinds of aspects nga father. Ako nga, kahit basketball skills ko, dine-demonstrate ko sa tiktoks. It’s a way to release talaga the tensions in your body. Para loose ka lang and you get to be yourself.
JBoy: It might inspire some people to learn new things and that’s a great stress reliever. Not everything is your studies, hindi ba? You have the left brain and the right brain, we have different intelligences, therefore to discover a lot of things which you can do, is very empowering.
8. Be kind to yourself.
Lance: Another one that I really find interesting is being kind to oneself. May times talaga that we commit mistakes. Minsan hindi talaga natin naaabot yung passing scores. But that’s ok; that’s the beauty of it. We learn from it para hindi na natin maulit. Actually I have experienced various retakes in certain quizzes kasi father ganoon talaga ako nahirapan. It’s a way to really challenge yourself. Sana hindi naman tayo aabot sa point na dinadown na natin yung sarili natin, nawawalan na tayo ng pag-asa, sana alam mo kung saan nangagaling yung limits mo, yung ceiling ng limits mo. Minsan nao-overwork na tayo.
Kasi in college, in our case father, we have the formative assessments and we have this thing called summative assessments. By the end of the sem, so, as in, I see various tweets online, post sa FB na grabe formative assessment lang ito, tapos iniiyakan na natin. What more na lang kaya if summative.
Jboy: There’s a way of looking at failures. It can make you or it can break you. Pero parang basketball lang iyan. Minsan natatalo tayo di ba? But yung point at importanteng attitude sa basketball ay tingnan niyo kung paano kayo naglaro, paano kayo mag-iimprove para in the next one, you’ll be better. I think the quizzes are like that. I’m a teacher guys, so I tell you that sometimes what can teach you are those mistakes.
Lance: Hindi buo ang learning process without the mistakes themselves.
JBoy: Tama. And that is also true in life, di ba?
Lance: Oo naman.
Actually I have two secrets to relieve stress.
9. Avoid negative people.
The first secret is really to avoid negative people kasi, ako, paglabas ko ng PBB, ang dami kong bashers. Di naman maiwasan iyong mga bashers talaga. There are really persons who will try to bring you down, para ma-angat sila or say, yun na yung happiness nila. I think the negativity talaga is something that we should avoid, para we can grow and be productive. We should focus more on the positive side, kasi, these people will try to bring us down. It’s a challenge in our lives.
10. Talk to God.
The second secret that I would say father is talk to God through prayer. I think God plays an important role, lalu na nai-stress tayo. When we talk to God, we share to God the struggles natin, kasi, at the end of the day, God is there to help us. Para malagpasan natin yung mga struggles natin.
JBoy: And with your personality, to be kinesthetic, to stay put, is difficult. Ganoon din ako: Pwede ba tayong gumalaw-galaw! Buwisit talaga itong virus na ito. Biglang nalimit tayo bigla!
What would you advise people who have dreams such as yours?
Lance: I am working as an artist, but i would say to people that have dreams in general, is really don’t be afraid to commit mistakes. I’ve been in various auditions. I’ve been in various VTRs, talagang your time will come lang talaga. God has a way for you. God has a plan for each one of us.
And I think with the help of failures to make us stronger, it allows us to make us believe more in ourselves, na hindi dapat ang tingin natin sa sarili natin ay magaling ako sa ganito, magaling ako sa ganyan, hindi dapat ganyan. We need to know where we can improve on para ma-achieve natin yung goals natin, so that we can get outside of our comfort zones.
And just don’t lose hope. Pray to God. And patience with time management.
11. Schedule your priorities.
To quote my high school former coach, Coach Miggy, hindi siya prioritize your schedule, it’s scheduling your priorities. We have certain priorities, so we need to schedule them talaga. Hindi yung basta gawin natin ito, gawin natin iyan, dapat may certain plan talaga tayo.
Jboy: In other words, what is important when you dream is that you continually hope. And you need a lot of courage to fulfill those dreams. Kaya tama sabi ni Coach Miggy, you schedule your priorities, hindi ka pwede magkalat. As long as you know what you really want.
Lance: Unang una, I would like to thank you Fr. JBoy and the Ateneo community for inviting me once again. I would like to say to all the students, to all the teachers na experiencing struggles in online learning is don’t give up, don’t lose hope. And see the beauty in it. Stay safe guys.
Jboy: Oo nga, stay safe. You are safe at home. Maraming salamat.
Extro: Once again, thank you very much, Lance Justin Carr, for guesting. I promise to pray for you, your studies and your future. And to all of you, thank you for watching. Drop a question on the comment section for future content, and don’t forget to subscribe. This is Fr. Jboy on the line. See you next time.